I'm truly sorry to hear that you are not together with your boyfriend. I'm sure this is quite difficult, especially since you're here reading this trying to finds ways to get him back. I have experienced my fair share of pain in life and I know that it's very hard to be where you are right now. Have hope in the fact that someday soon you will emerge from whatever sadness you are feeling. In the meantime, your main concern is how to repair this relationship that you believe should not have ended. Here are some standard practices that can help you do that.
Do you know why the relationship ended? I'm not talking about the final fight or conversation that led to the actual breakup. Rather I'm talking about all the back story that led up to it. There's rarely one event that was the cause of the breakup. Patterns and habits, not events, typically cause breakups. So what were the chief patterns and behaviors, on your part or his, that resulted in a failed relationship? See if you can come up with the top three.
The next step is to look hard and honestly into what role you played in contributing to these problems and perhaps what you could have done to prevent them. It's quite natural to want to blame your ex boyfriend. It may very well have been that he wanted to spend more time with his friends, so, it's easy to say that it's his fault that he wants to spend more time with his friends. But it's just as much your fault for not being able to find a way to give him the time he needs with his friends and you the time that you require to be together with him. There's a solution in their somewhere.
After a breakup we are usually very sad, and anxious to get back together with the one we love. This anxiousness often causes us to act too hastily. In our haste, we may end up doing more damage than good and completely ruin our chances of getting our ex back. I know this is hard to do but you need to find a way to be satisfied with the fact that the healing process between you and your boyfriend may need some time. One way to help you cope is to set an exaggerated timeline of when you think you want to get your ex back. Maybe three months or six months is a good exaggerated timeline. If you make yourself believe that you need to get him back in a week or month, you're going to feel too much pressure which may lead you to make some mistakes.
Last, but certainly not least, be confident in yourself and be strong. It is not the end of the world. Our true strength can only be exercised when we are going through the toughest times. Here is your opportunity to demonstrate to yourself and to others that you are a strong person who has it together. This sense of self-confidence and strength will make you feel better about yourself and will make you appear more attractive to others, especially your ex-boyfriend. If there's one thing that will push your boyfriend away from you it's a needy and depressed you. If he gets a chance to see a strong and confident you, that will be extremely attractive to him.
Don't be discouraged if you feel like all this is too much for you. As was mentioned before, you're not working on something that you plan on finishing in a week or two. With a reasonable timeline, a dash of determination, and a healthy dose of self-confidence, you can enjoy a wonderful relationship with a very special man. - 20763
Do you know why the relationship ended? I'm not talking about the final fight or conversation that led to the actual breakup. Rather I'm talking about all the back story that led up to it. There's rarely one event that was the cause of the breakup. Patterns and habits, not events, typically cause breakups. So what were the chief patterns and behaviors, on your part or his, that resulted in a failed relationship? See if you can come up with the top three.
The next step is to look hard and honestly into what role you played in contributing to these problems and perhaps what you could have done to prevent them. It's quite natural to want to blame your ex boyfriend. It may very well have been that he wanted to spend more time with his friends, so, it's easy to say that it's his fault that he wants to spend more time with his friends. But it's just as much your fault for not being able to find a way to give him the time he needs with his friends and you the time that you require to be together with him. There's a solution in their somewhere.
After a breakup we are usually very sad, and anxious to get back together with the one we love. This anxiousness often causes us to act too hastily. In our haste, we may end up doing more damage than good and completely ruin our chances of getting our ex back. I know this is hard to do but you need to find a way to be satisfied with the fact that the healing process between you and your boyfriend may need some time. One way to help you cope is to set an exaggerated timeline of when you think you want to get your ex back. Maybe three months or six months is a good exaggerated timeline. If you make yourself believe that you need to get him back in a week or month, you're going to feel too much pressure which may lead you to make some mistakes.
Last, but certainly not least, be confident in yourself and be strong. It is not the end of the world. Our true strength can only be exercised when we are going through the toughest times. Here is your opportunity to demonstrate to yourself and to others that you are a strong person who has it together. This sense of self-confidence and strength will make you feel better about yourself and will make you appear more attractive to others, especially your ex-boyfriend. If there's one thing that will push your boyfriend away from you it's a needy and depressed you. If he gets a chance to see a strong and confident you, that will be extremely attractive to him.
Don't be discouraged if you feel like all this is too much for you. As was mentioned before, you're not working on something that you plan on finishing in a week or two. With a reasonable timeline, a dash of determination, and a healthy dose of self-confidence, you can enjoy a wonderful relationship with a very special man. - 20763
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