You have a wife caught cheating? Going through the emotional agony of a betrayal? Don't panic. Stay in control and navigate your way through this. This is not the time for your inner Mr. T to make an appearance. Just the opposite. You need to very careful about the steps you're about to take. Whatever course you follow is going to have a huge effect on your life.
Don't go off all half cocked
If you have a wife caught cheating, the first impulse you're likely going to have: search and destroy. Don't. Keep your emotions in check as best you can. Easy to say, right? Find a trusted friend or family member and vent in a private setting. Let it all hang out there. But, when you make your re-appearance back into the real world be the man you want to be. Nothing less.
Seek out your closest confidant
This is tough. You did what? With whom? Where did you do it? How long? One detail leads to another and to another. If you have a wife caught cheating, this can be endless and cause you a ton of misery. In many ways it validates all the insecurities you have. Know this: the lie is more about her than you, and that's the truth.
Get away from everything for a while
When you have a wife caught cheating everyone is going to want to be Dr. Phil to you. It's well intended, but likely to not be very productive. You need to be alone and given time to unearth what you think, what you feel, perhaps to even re-define yourself and your life. All this may not be on the surface and easily accessible. You may have to dig for some of it. And, that requires some space and being alone.
What's still meaningful in your life
Is it your kids? Is it the relationship you have with your family and friends? You still have that no matter what lie has been told to you. Ask yourself this question: who is the most important person in your life? The answer should be "you." And, no one can ever take that away. Your life will continue. You still have decisions and choices to make. Don't think for a minute you don't.
There are no easy answers when you have a wife caught cheating. There just aren't. You may decide your world is beyond repair, and it's time to move on. Sometimes that's the only way. But, this could be an opportunity for you both to re-invent yourself and your marriage. It depends on your much you mean to each other in the end. And, only the two of you can define that. - 20763
Don't go off all half cocked
If you have a wife caught cheating, the first impulse you're likely going to have: search and destroy. Don't. Keep your emotions in check as best you can. Easy to say, right? Find a trusted friend or family member and vent in a private setting. Let it all hang out there. But, when you make your re-appearance back into the real world be the man you want to be. Nothing less.
Seek out your closest confidant
This is tough. You did what? With whom? Where did you do it? How long? One detail leads to another and to another. If you have a wife caught cheating, this can be endless and cause you a ton of misery. In many ways it validates all the insecurities you have. Know this: the lie is more about her than you, and that's the truth.
Get away from everything for a while
When you have a wife caught cheating everyone is going to want to be Dr. Phil to you. It's well intended, but likely to not be very productive. You need to be alone and given time to unearth what you think, what you feel, perhaps to even re-define yourself and your life. All this may not be on the surface and easily accessible. You may have to dig for some of it. And, that requires some space and being alone.
What's still meaningful in your life
Is it your kids? Is it the relationship you have with your family and friends? You still have that no matter what lie has been told to you. Ask yourself this question: who is the most important person in your life? The answer should be "you." And, no one can ever take that away. Your life will continue. You still have decisions and choices to make. Don't think for a minute you don't.
There are no easy answers when you have a wife caught cheating. There just aren't. You may decide your world is beyond repair, and it's time to move on. Sometimes that's the only way. But, this could be an opportunity for you both to re-invent yourself and your marriage. It depends on your much you mean to each other in the end. And, only the two of you can define that. - 20763
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